I'm new here so be nice hey?

Anyway I'm just curious as to what is the happening with enlisted men's social lives?
Reason I ask is, Having a few friends in the ADF, three of many in the Army have in the last six months met 'the girl of there dreams', In this time two have married already and the third is on the brink of asking and all three of them are talking about leaving the Army to pursue these women who utterly refuse to live the Army 'lifestyle'

Nothing wrong with getting married(i already am, After 5 years of nagging and whinging) but within 6 months of meeting these shilea's and then because they don't want to change there life in anyway what so ever these guys are going to throw away there career's (one has 8 years in)
Just seems to me that some of the guys enlisted are somewhat deprived on the relationship front

I'm seeing this as a pehaps common reason for guys leaving the ADF and I think it's something they may need to look into, Hoping to hear some feedback in regards from those currently serving

And before I get fried for being 'civie' to late haha already applied,passed JOES and assement day and currently waiting for my position to become avaliable (ECN 164)

Just because they are in the army doesn't mean they are intelligent. I've bashed my head against the wall many a time after hearing what my mates have done for chicks whilst they've been in the army. Getting out after 8 years isn't a huge thing as many people get out at around that time. Maybe meeting this chick was the only motivation he needed.

Women are extremely fickle and men play to their tune all the time.

Yes blokes in the army are starved of relationships. Not all, but many. This is because it's much harder to meet decent women when the only opportunity you get is at the pubs/clubs or through friends. Hence why I'm still single. Or that could be because I'm crazy

Please, please johnno, I prefer the term smart.

Perhaps the lads latched onto something a little better than the old townsville moles or darwin slappers and wanted to whack a ring on their fingers while they were even money?

Say what you want but it takes a haf decent chick to be able to put up with posting cycles and time OS especially if they have young familes and are away from their own families and social networks.

Doesn't sound like its too rough on the lovelife

No 6 months flat out pre deployment training and 6 months of deployment hardly puts a dent in a relationship at all....
2 blokes in my patrol came back from Timor to broken relationships and my patrol commander had come back from a previous deployment to an empty house, no wife, no kid, no furniture, just his army kit stacked in the corner and a plate, knife and two pieces of mouldy bread in the toaster.

Thats just shocking.
Some people just don't have a f***ing clue do they?

digrar wrote:
My patrol commander had come back from a previous deployment to an empty house, no wife, no kid, no furniture, just his army kit stacked in the corner and a plate, knife and two pieces of mouldy bread in the toaster.

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Thats bad.

To be honest I've been concerned about the army's impact on my love life as well. I cant imagine more than a month without a root...

oh well

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Some interesting post's there, I've heard some 'horror' stories as mentioned above, But my point was not what the effect is to a relationship (be it pre or post enlistment) just the fact that enlisted men seem to unable to acquire a relationship once enlisted, I'm aware that what I've just said is obvious due to the pressure of an ADF career, And once they've gotten a tatse of a relationship it's 'All in at all cost's' to keep ahold of what they can get
Don't get me wrong I don't think any less of single blokes at all only that have not had the 'learning' curve of a break up before, Seemingly an essential lesson in life

Yeh certainly does take a special type of woman to put up with Army life , My mother and father still joke about , when my father was in the army , 6+ months a year out bush , on courses ect , come home drop of laundry , hot feed , then pretty much gone again , she had to deal with us boys by herself , 3 boys under 3yrs old and an older brother , bounced all over the place every 2 yrs or so

I guess when you find a chick who can handle the lifestyle , without breaking down , cheating , walking out ect

you'll do just about anything to hang onto to them .